Reading my Sociology Gender readings and boy is it thought provoking.

I’m reading “The Five Sexes” and also “The Five Sexes, Revisited” by the same person, Anne Fausto.

How to let intersexed people have an easier life? Remove “gender” from forms and etc. HMM I’m trying to imagine this. What is there for in the first place? Maybe cause only “females can apply” policies? Or is it there just to feed our need of having information, trying to get to know someone through a piece of paper, and stick them into preconceived notions- eg: looking through maybe drink driving records and you see that this person who is male got arrested, make the link that men drink more etc and basically accept it in your mind. Maybe it helps us construct such situations and have “logic”? 

And, just thinking, if you had a kid that was not “normal” - meaning, deformed in some way, maybe mentally or physically or just different from the norm- as a parent would you blame yourself for creating a child like this? Would you rectify it? What is “natural”? If the child came out like this isn’t it “natural”? Why would something that deviated from the norm be “unnatural”? Just cause it’s not the majority? Also, would you try to make your child “normal” just to fit into society better? As a parent you would want to reduce hurt. Like taunts from kids and the glare/or other looks from society if you are deformed/different/disabled etc.  What would you do? How would you cope? It must be acknowledged that you cannot raise the kid normally, they have special needs- but then again I always wondered how they feel. Do they hate the stares, or the plain ignorance, do they wanna be normal, are they fine with themselves. It’s like if you stare they might feel uncomfortable. But if you don’t look just like you don’t look at other strangers they might feel like they’re being ignored. This is kinda confusing cause I don’t really understand the psyche.

So, the question: If you had an intersexed kid, what would you do?

(intersex: basically not male nor female- having both organs etc)

From studies and many painful biographies from existing hermaphrodites and their variations, number one thing you should not do: force the surgery on the baby. How do you which gender the baby wants to be? What if the kid grows up and wants to be female, male or just him/herself or alright language is lacking here. Okay but how on earth are you going to raise him/her? Which toilet is she/he gonna go? This wayyyy complex and yep, the readings are right- the surgery- to ease whose pain? the parents, physicians, or the child?!!! Paved with good intentions but so many factors to consider.